“I’m an introvert at heart… And show business – even though I’ve loved it so much – has always been hard for me.”
— Roy Rogers
I know… sounds crazy to most people… Let’s face it… being an introvert gets a bad name. It’s often considered a “condition”… just short of terminal illness. Extroverts get to be “masters of the universe”… the life of the party… fun-loving and friendly.
Introverts? They’re the shy, awkward, sometimes grouchy folks who prefer to avoid others for fear of being trapped in small talk… incapable of “working” a room… terrible at “building relationships…” In short, not the first among equals companies look to employ.
I have an alternate theory regarding introverts.
They just don’t like most people.
They prefer a few real relationships over a plethora of “associates.”
They would rather remove their own tonsils sans anesthesia than “network.”
Working in a “team-based” environment is akin to being sentenced to a modern day Shawshank…
To be clear, most introverts are NOT anti-social.
They’re NOT depressed.
Many of them simply have VERY high standards for the company they keep, generally preferring their own company to that of other people. They don’t want to engage in small talk and most have come to understand that discussing meatier issues like politics or any of the -isms, generally leads to an uncomfortable interaction (at best).
Here’s a list of 10 common myths associated with introverts… Each myth says they, but we could just as easily have written ‘we.’
Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they’re interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite… they won’t notice.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
List taken from Carlkingdom.com.
Well introverts take heart. There is a job where being an extrovert gives ZERO advantage.
A job that does not require you to have “face-time.”
A job that’s a TRUE work from home (or wherever you like) opportunity.
A job where your inward focus is a strength as opposed to a detriment.
A job where there is no teamwork requirement… but you have the freedom to work in a team based environment if you like.
A job where you can make more money than the average professional athlete… on your own terms.
Sound good? Want to know more?
Check out trading. more specifically, day trading.
You just might find a job tailor made for you.
Like I did…